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Amber St. Germain
Holistic Somatic Sex And Attachment Therapist
Inherited Family Trauma Healing and Life Coaching
M.A., MFT
Online Sessions
everywhere in the U.S.
In person sessions in Asheville, Charlotte and Orlando
Discover Your Best Self
Are you attracted to unavailable people?
Are you continually struggling with your health?
Does having a job you love feel impossible?
Are you in an unhappy relationship?
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It can be heartbreaking not to have the relationship, health, or fulfilling work you want,
despite your best efforts.
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Harnessing the power of neuroplasticity and attachment science, I can help you repattern your nervous system to create new relationship, sexuality and money templates.
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Our sex, relationship and money templates are based on our experiences in life, especially in childhood, as well as inherited family stories and traumas. They inform everything we think, feel and experience. They attract repeating patterns and traumas that we have the power to change and to attract new more empowering experiences.
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Do you have it all in life except what you want more than anything: your heart's deepest desires?
When working hard and doing everything right isn't enough it's time to play and make miracles happen and make it fun.
If the idea of exploring your heart's deepest desires speaks to you and feels like something you truly want, I'm genuinely glad you're here.
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If you've been looking for a coach or therapist to help you on your journey, please read about my educational background to get a better sense of where I have trained and who I have studied with.
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Amber St. Germain
Holistic Somatic Sex And Attachment Therapist
Inherited Family Trauma Healing And Life Coaching
M.A., MFT
I offer more than just talk therapy.
Hi, I'm Amber St. Germain, a Therapist and Coach (MFT) and I’ve been on my own personal growth journey for over twenty years and I believe that personal growth, healing and therapy can be playful and fun! Indeed, they are deep play and deep fun!
I'm an Attachment (relationship science) Therapist and Somatic (body based) Sexuality Coach with over twenty years supporting clients and their personal growth. I offer sessions online and in person providing traditional talk therapy and more where I listen attentively and compassionately, delving into your daily challenges as well as your deeper wounds, traumas, and relationship struggles. I aim to truly understand you through reflective listening. However, I offer more than just talk therapy; the modalities i practice provide you with the opportunity for genuine healing and transformation.
Therapy Can Be Fun! Deep Fun!
Deep Play Therapy is the perspective that growth and healing can be fun. Many people think that growth and healing are hard and painful but it doesn't have to be that way.
When we proactively work on our challenges and traumas then we don’t have the experience of life bringing us to our knees in unpleasant ways forcing us to “do our work.”
Proactively we can do our emotional work and healing that we all have to do as a result of our upbringings, the cultures we grew up in, and our Inherited Family Traumas in a way that is playful and even fun, deep fun. Healing ourselves can also help heal our families, our children, born or unborn, and even the culture and world we live in which can be deeply rewarding and deep fun.
You were born for this! This is a special time in history where we finally have the tools and opportunity to heal not just ourselves but our children, families, ancestors and the world and culture we live in.
Let me show you how >
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Bliss, Joy, Ecstacy and Happiness are Possible for You!
Are you on a healing journey?
If you answered yes, you will know that sometimes on this healing journey we need to grieve and sometimes we need to rage. There is a time and place for that and it is important, even crucial. Making a choice to be guided and supported while you are transforming is a huge gift that you give to yourself.
Healing is never complete until we feel not only the feelings that are blocking our happiness and joy but also the feelings like happiness and joy waiting for us on the other side of the grief and the rage. To fully heal our lives we need new, different and better experiences to replace the old limiting ones that made us feel frustrated and hopeless. Peak experiences of joy, ecstasy and realization are healing and expansive.
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Awakening often grows out of hardship. However, no matter how hard it has been, when you get to the other side you will feel more ongoing bliss, joy, ecstasy and happiness than you ever thought possible before.
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How I can help.
We focus on trauma healing, relationships, sex therapy, intergenerational healing and helping you with your attachment style. I’m certified in Inherited Family Trauma healing aka. Hellinger Family Systemic Constellations and Advanced Theta Healing to upgrade your deep subconscious beliefs. We can have deep fun with Dream Work, Inner Parts, Sand Tray, Art Therapy, Life Purpose Astrology, Past Life Clearing and more. I create a non-judgmental, safe space for you to be yourself and explore what you really want most of all and what's blocking you. I truly desire to know your deepest challenges and struggles so that together we can get you to your next level of breakthrough with grace and celebration. That's my jam! It's what I was born to do: to help you solve your problems. As both a Therapist and Life Coach, it’s important to me to both help you to heal and reach your goals so you can have the experiences and life you desire and dream of.    I believe the most effective and efficient way to heal is to use physical strategies (lifestyle, habits, routines, diet, exercise, herbs and supplements, medications, ect.) and psychological strategies (therapy, problem-solving, positive self talk, ect.), along with relationship improvements and spiritual healing (meaning, purpose, values, meditation, prayer, connection with nature, humanitarianism etc.) I also offer Nature and Movement Therapy where we can meet in a semi-private place outdoors to walk or sit in nature and do our talk therapy together. This is optional as I have a well appointed and private office where we can meet inside as well as online through a secure zoom platform.
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Out of The Box Therapy For
Out of The Box People
Many of the clients I work with now are interested in the hybrid of Somatic Sex Therapy and Attachment Science that I offer. As an educational, experiential and Holistic Sex Therapist I create a safe nonjudgmental space to explore and awaken. I believe that healthy relationships and sexuality are important for physical health and longevity as well as for mental and emotional wellness. In my experience, almost everyone has cultural and transgenerational sexual trauma that affects their relationships and their capacity for pleasure and enjoyment that they need to heal from as a result of growing up in sex negative body shaming cultures and inheriting ancestral traumas. Further, All the cultural emphasis on how we are "supposed" to look results in caring more about how you look than how you feel in your body and it requires doing our therapeutic work to forge a positive relationship with ourselves and by extension all the rest of life and nature.
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15 Minute Consult
I offer a free confidential 15 minute phone call to see if we are a good fit to work together. Leave a message at my office 704-246-9420 and let me know some times that are good for me to call you back.
Or you can also leave me a message using my contact form, and I will text you back if you prefer that we chat by text initially.